Making Criticism Work for You
—Jay Sailors
We all like to be praised, but for many of us, criticism can be hard to swallow. However, listening to criticism—whether it's at school, work, or home—is important if we want to better ourselves. How do we learn from criticism, rather than letting it get the best of us?
To begin with, when you hear criticism, focus on what's being said and not how it's being said. People often criticize when they're angry, and that can lead to hurt feelings. Therefore, if your boss angrily complains that your work is insufficient, don't pay attention to the angry tone. Instead, think about what your boss said, and ask yourself if it's true. If it is, then find ways to improve.
Next, don't respond to criticism immediately. Responding out of a sense of injured pride may make you regret your words. Lastly, don't take criticism personally. If your teacher says your report was poorly done, listen carefully to your teacher's opinions and suggestions so that you can do better the next time. Keep in mind that the teacher is criticizing the report, not you.
化批評為助力
我們都喜歡被稱讚，但對我們許多人來說，批評可能難以接受。然而，如果我們想要讓自己更好，聆聽批評——不管是在學校、職場或家裡——是很重要的。我們該怎麼從批評中學習，而不是讓批評的情緒戰勝我們的理智呢？
首先，當你聽到批評，把重點放在說了什麼而不是怎麼說的。人在生氣時常會批評別人，那可能會引起受傷的感覺。因此，如果你老闆生氣地抱怨你工作不夠投入，不要在意生氣的語氣，反而要想想老闆說了什麼，並問自己這是不是事實。如果是真的，那就找出方法來改進。
其次，不要立即對批評做出回應。基於自尊受傷而做出回應可能會讓你後悔你所說的話。最後，不要認為批評是針對個人。如果老師說你的報告做不好，仔細聽老師的意見和建議，這樣你下次才能做得更好。要記住老師是批評這份報告，不是批評你。
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